People learning Tango start out with some goal, typically associated with some visual image of some people dancing that represents this goal. Having a visual goal is usually much more motivating that just a verbal one. So usually people are motivated by images of people who dance really well and strive to achieve that. They usually do that by taking classes and practicing.
I take the view that success and failure is not necessarily a matter of being highly motivated to achieve a goal, but more importantly of having the right system. Focusing excessively on goals represented by images of beautiful dancers can be detrimental to our learning tango. I suggest that instead what we need is a reliable system and to focus on applying that system.
The hacks presented here are systems that work each time they are applied, and that when they are applied together are very powerful in making us better dancers. You should feel a sense of calm and satisfaction each time you apply them and applying them consistently will move you towards your learning goals.
Focusing on goals and role-models can give us an initial injection of inspiration and motivation, but over time can lead to stress and disappointment. As Scott Adams writes in his book (How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big: Kind of the Story of My Life):
Throughout my career I’ve had my antennae up, looking for examples of people who use systems as opposed to goals.
To put it bluntly, goals are for losers. That’s literally true most of the time. For example, if your goal is to lose ten pounds, you will spend every moment until you reach that goal—if you reach it at all—feeling as if you were short of that goal. In other words, goal oriented people exist in a state of nearly continuous failure that they hope will be temporary. That feeling wears on you. It becomes heavy and uncomfortable. It might even drive you out of the game.
If you achieve your goal, you celebrate and feel terrific, but only until you realize you just lost the thing that gave you purpose and direction. Your options are to feel empty and useless, perhaps enjoying the spoils of your success until they bore you, or set new goals and reenter the cycle of permanent presuccess failure.
I think Adams here describes the motivational conundrum of many students of tango. They have an image of how they want to dance and this creates tension so long as they feel that they haven’t achieved it. If they never quite measure up they always feel like a failure. If they do manage to achieve it, then after celebrating and briefly enjoying their achievement they soon feel the need to set another goal which once again sets them into a state of scarcity.
By contrast, if you can find a system that will take you to that goal you no longer have to focus on that goal and instead focus on applying the system. If the system is a good one it will yield visible positive results every time it’s applied. Therefore, focusing on systems you are always in a state of abundance.
Adams says that goals work for relatively simple tasks where you can control the variables, such as making a meal or writing a blog post. When however the situation is very complex focusing on goals means that we are unable to take advantage of opportunities that arise that we have screened out because we’ve been so focused on our goal. Adams defines a system as follows:
Something you do regularly that improves your odds and makes you more valuable (ideally).
So the question is whether learning tango is a simple and predictable task such as making a meal, or a more complex task in which we have little control or predictability. As anyone who has danced at milongas will attest, no two people dance alike. Learning fixed choreography means that we can only dance with people who do the same steps but as soon as we move outside of that circle we find that different people dance differently.
So is spending a lot of time and effort on learning a particular choreography the most useful strategy if one can only dance that with only a few people? Or is it better to learn systems that allow us to be flexible and dance with the widest range of people? In the second strategy we are we are not rigidly committed to a particular choreography. We can adapt to the situation and are able to take advantage of opportunities that arise in the given situation and in the given moment.